So koj lub chav huv tam sim
Nrog txoj kev xav me me xwb, Kuv ib txwm mloog cov lus tshwm sim ntawd, tshwj xeeb yog qhia cov menyuam yaus, lawv txoj kev txhawb nqa. Dab tsi ua kom pom tseeb thiab nkag siab tau rau txhua tus neeg uas tau ntsib kev cob qhia tau hloov mus ua qhov tsis txaus ntseeg rau cov neeg tsis lees paub.
Nyob rau hnub sov sov so, "kev lom zem" sib sau ua si ntawm chaw ua si, li qub. Txhua tus niam thiab menyuam tau paub ib leeg ntev, thiab cov ncauj lus ntawm kev sib tham txhua hnub tsis tshua dhau lub moj khaum ntawm "li cas kuv noj thiab ua si hnub no, nws hais dab tsi." Lub monotony ntawm kev ua niam ua txiv lub neej txhua hnub thiab kev sib tham ua tsaug rau qhov kev cob qhia System-vector psychology hloov rau kuv mus rau hauv kev paub txoj kev muaj tseeb.
Hnub no peb tab tom tham txog menyuam yaus thiab tu cev. Cov niam tsev tau muab faib ua ob lub chaw pw. Qee tus tau txhawj tias tus menyuam tsis xav kom siv rau qhov txhua yam: khaws nws cov khoom, khoom ua si folding, pab ncig tsev. Okay, thaum nws tseem me me, thiab koj yuav tsum sau cia ze ntawm lub heels ntawm qhov xwm txheej hauv zos - cov kua txiv, cov seem ntawm ncuav qab zib, cwj mem qhuav, yam khoom pov tseg tawm ntawm lub txee dai khaub ncaws … "Thiab ua li cas thaum tus menyuam ntawm lub hnub nyoog kuj meej pem tsis tau rov kawm nyob rau hauv txhua txoj kev ", - lawv tau quaj …
Lwm cov txhuam kev tsis meej pem: "Los ntawm lub hnub nyoog pib nws yog qhov tsim nyog los qhia."
- Ntawm no yog kuv li, piv txwv li, xws li zoo huv si, yog tias nws pom lub pob zeb tawg rau hauv av, nws tam sim ntawd nqa nws mus rau hauv cov thoob khib nyiab, thiab txawm hais tias nrog lub me me speck nws yuav tsis hnav khaub ncaws, - ib ntawm lawv zoo siab tshaj tawm. Tej zaum nws xav tias nws tsim nyog …
- Thiab kuv tuaj yeem rov hais rau kuv tus kheej li kaum zaus: "Nqa cov khoom mus, koj yuav ua si tom qab," - thiab nws yuav tsis coj nws lub pob ntseg mus txog thaum kuv qw.
Nrog txoj kev xav me me xwb, Kuv ib txwm mloog cov lus tshwm sim ntawd, tshwj xeeb yog qhia cov menyuam yaus, lawv txoj kev txhawb nqa. Dab tsi ua kom pom tseeb thiab nkag siab tau rau txhua tus neeg uas tau ntsib kev cob qhia tau hloov mus ua qhov tsis txaus ntseeg rau cov neeg tsis lees paub.
Nws paub tias innate zoo tswj qhov kev coj cwj pwm, kev pom, thiab kev muaj peev xwm, thaum kawg. Hauv tsab xov xwm "Kev Ua Tsov Rog ntawm Kev Ncaj Ncees thiab Kev Ncaj Ncees," peb tau tham txog leej twg thiab vim li cas muaj peev xwm thiab muaj lub siab xav ntxuav lub tsev, thiab hais tias lwm tus tsuas yog yoog raws li qhov xav tau kom muaj kev tswj hwm.
Qhov no muaj tseeb rau cov menyuam yaus ib yam nkaus rau cov laus. Ib tug me nyuam muaj lub pob looj pob yuav zoo siab pab leej niam nyob ib ncig ntawm lub tsev. Kev mloog lus thiab mob siab rau los ntawm qhov xwmtxheej, nws zoo heev lees txais qhov yuav tsum tau rov qab ua kom tiav. Nws nyuaj rau nws ua thawj kauj ruam, tab sis yog tias nws niam qhia thiab qhia qhov kev ua tom ntej, nws zoo siab ua tiav nws qhov kev thov. Nws yog qhov tseem ceeb rau nws - xws li kev sib raug zoo, uas, ntxiv mus, zoo tsim nws lub zog: qhov tseeb, zoo, kom zoo.
Qhov loj tshaj plaws yog kom tsis txhob overdo nws nrog kev qhuas, yog li ntawd kom tsis txhob instill nyob rau hauv xws li ib tug me nyuam "zoo tub" (los yog "zoo nkauj") complex. Nov tsis zoo kiag li.
Nrog tas ntawm cov vectors, txhua yam yog qhov nyuab dua, vim tias lawv lub peev xwm tsis sib xws yog qhia rau lwm yam. Thiab tsuas yog kev nkag siab meej ntawm lub luag haujlwm vector muab cov niam txiv ib lub tswv yim ntawm dab tsi thiab qib dab tsi tuaj yeem tsim kho hauv tus menyuam, thiab dab tsi yuav tsis ua haujlwm, txawm tias koj tau kawm nrog nws tas nws lub neej.
Raws li rau cov menyuam yaus uas muaj daim tawv nqaij viav vias - nquag, txawb, ua tsis tau, tom qab ntawd, ntawm chav kawm, tso kev nyiam huv thiab kev coj ua tsis yog nyob ntawm txhua qhov muaj zog. Dab tsi tricks xws li ib tug me nyuam yuav tsis los nrog kev khiav nkaum kev tu. Txawm tias paub tseeb tias qhov kev zam dhau ntawm cov txheej txheem tsis kaj siab, nws yuav sim tso txhua yam rau ntawm cov ces sai li sai tau thiab tsim cov yam ntxwv ntawm kev txiav txim, tom qab ntawd nws yuav mus hais txog nws txoj kev lag luam nrog kev paub txog kev ua tiav. Alas, koj tsis tuaj yeem tos kom zoo los ntawm lawv.
Zoo, koj yuav tsum tsis txhob npau taws rau lawv, thiab kev mob siab rau kev kawm ntawv dua. Nws yuav pab tau zoo dua, txawm tias muaj kev ua haujlwm li kev tu, siv lawv cov yam ntxwv sab hauv, tsim kom muaj lub zog txaus rau lawv thiab thiaj li tsim kho.
Nws yog qhov yooj yim kom ntxim tus menyuam tawv nqaij, yog tias koj npaj tu qhov kev sib tw, rau ib pliag lossis rau tus nqi, nws tuaj yeem suav ua qhov khoom yuav tsum muaj nyob hauv lub sijhawm lossis tau piav qhia meej ntawm cov haujlwm - qhov no tsuas yog me me feem ntawm qhov koj tuaj yeem xav txog siv cov tawv nqaij zoo. Muaj ntau txoj kev xaiv nyob ntawm no, tab sis nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas xav hais tias qhov twg yuav yog qhov zoo dua thiab ze rau koj tus menyuam tam sim no.
Yog li nws yog nrog tas cov vectors - cov hauv paus ntsiab lus, Kuv xav tias, yog qhov tseeb. Nws yuav zoo nkauj npaum li cas rau tus me nyuam lub qhov muag pom tsis yog tu kom huv, tab sis kom "coj kev zoo nkauj" lossis tsim tej yam "zoo nkauj" los ya rau nws thaum hmo ntuj, uas tsuas ya mus rau hauv cov chav huv.
Yog tias cov niam txiv uas muaj lub qhov ncauj vav tsis yog kho tau ntawm kev txiav txim, yog tias lawv pom lub peev xwm ntawm tus menyuam thiab qhia nws ua qhov yog, ces tsis muaj teeb meem dab tsi.
Thiab raws li rau cov niam ntawm tus xaib, lawv twb tau kos npe rau kev qhuab qhia pub dawb.
Lawv cov kws tshaj lij tawm tswv yim
Twb tau ob-peb-xyoo menyuam yaus ua qauv qhia txawv tus cwj pwm sib txawv, nyob ntawm lawv cov teeb tsa vector. Nws tau tso dag kom pom txhua yam tshwm sim txoj kev uas Yuri Burlan piav qhia nws ntawm kev kawm ntawm System-Vector Psychology.
Ntawm no peb muaj ib tus ntxhais lub qhov quav ntawm peb xyoos. Nws pab leej niam nyob ib ncig ntawm lub tsev. Tsis yog vim niam thov, tab sis vim yog nws tus kheej nyiam nws. Kuv nyiam saib seb kuv niam tu li cas, yuav ua li cas txhua tus nqaj hlau txhua tus so ntawm lub rooj. Txhua yam ua kom huv ua ntej nws ob lub qhov muag thiab nws muaj lub siab xav ua qhov qub. Thiab tam sim no nyob hauv qib pib peb saib yuav ua li cas tus me nyuam ntxhais no rubs lub rooj nrog zoo siab - zoo li nws tau ntxuav nws.
Tsis tsuas yog cov menyuam ntxhais, tab sis kuj yog cov tub hluas nrog lub qhov quav vector coj tus cwj pwm zoo ib yam. Ntawm no yog ib tug me nyuam tub qhov quav thov kom tso quav rau nws kom nws tuaj yeem ntxuav tais diav.
Nws yog qhov tseeb uas koj xav tau los txhawb kom ua li ntawd ntawm koj tus menyuam qhov quav. Nws muaj lub siab xav ua kom huv thiab ua tiav txhua yam. Yog li ntawd hais tias tsis yog ib tug speck sab laug, txhua yam tau zoo huv si. Nco ntsoov qhuas menyuam rau nws kev ua haujlwm, rau nws kev siv zog. Hais ncaj qha nrog cov lus tseem ceeb no rau qhov quav: "Ua tau zoo, koj sim li cas!", "Tus phooj ywg zoo, uas koj tau coj nws mus txog thaum kawg!", "Koj tau ntxuav kom huv li cas, Kuv yuav qhia txhua tus li a zoo tus menyuam zoo kuv muaj! "ntawm lub taub hau.
Txawm li cas los xij, ceev faj - tsis txhob overdo nws nrog qhuas! Tsis tas yuav qhuas tus menyuam yaus ob puas npaug rau qhov nws tau ua haujlwm ntev. Nws yog qhov tsis zoo rau kev muab nqi zog rau xya-xyoo-laus thawj zaug rau kev hnav khaub ncaws ntawm nws tus kheej. Sai li tus me nyuam tau pib ua twj ywm ua ib qho hauj lwm - teeb ib qho ntxiv, mus rau kev nce qib, rau kev txhim kho. Qhuas rau tus me nyuam qhov quav yuav tsum tsim nyog thiab tsim nyog ua nws lub dag zog.
Cov menyuam mos tawv nqaij muaj qhov txawv txav tiag. Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws nyob rau hauv lawv lub upbringing yog hloov tau, zoo li daim tawv nqaij nyob rau hauv zoo, ib qho system ntawm khoom plig thiab kev rau txim. Ntawm ib sab, ib tug menyuam yaus yuav tsum nkag siab meej txog yam kev rau txim dabtsi yuav ua raws yog, piv txwv li, nws tsis ntxuav nws chav. "Peb muaj khoom ua si tshiab, tab sis vim tias koj pov cov khoom no dhau lawm, peb yuav tsis muab cov khoom tshiab rau koj ntxiv", "Okay, tom qab ntawd peb yuav muab txhua yam khoom ua si pov tseg. Tab sis koj tsis tuaj yeem ua si nrog lawv tau ntxiv kom txog thaum koj xav tso txhua yam rau hauv."
Ntawm qhov tod tes, tus menyuam yuav tsum to taub tias qhov khoom plig twg tseem ceeb rau nws yog tias nws ua tiav qhov tsim nyog. "Yog tias koj tu zoo txhua lub lim tiam, peb yuav yuav ib qho khoom ua si tshiab." Nco ntsoov muab nqi zog rau tus menyuam yog tias nws tau ua raws qhov nws xav tau. Coj lawv mus rau tom tiaj ua si kev lom zem lossis mus ntsib tus phooj ywg hnub so, yuav cov khoom ua si tau cog lus tseg. Ua tib zoo saib thiab nco ntsoov ua raws li koj cov lus cog tseg! Txwv tsis pub, tom qab lub sijhawm luv luv, koj yuav poob lub zog tseem ceeb ntawm koj tus menyuam, thiab nws yuav tau txais qhov tsis zoo rau lub neej.
Qhov loj tshaj plaws ntawm no tsis yog xav piav qhia. Txais txhua yam dhau los ntawm lawv qhov kev ua kom zoo nkauj, niam txiv feem ntau yuam lawv cov menyuam kom ua tiav kev ntxuav "mus rau qhov kawg", thiab kom txog thaum txhua yam tshem tawm, nws yuav tsis mus qhov twg. Txawm li cas los xij, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom nkag siab tias yog tias rau tus me nyuam hauv lub qhov quav "kom txog thaum kawg" nqa lub ntsiab lus tshwj xeeb, muaj nuj nqis tshwj xeeb, tom qab ntawd rau cov menyuam tawv nqaij nws tsis yog, kev xav tau yog xav tau nrog nws. Pib ntxuav - ua tau zoo heev. Thawj zaug kuv muab ob qho khoom ua si rov qab rau hauv qhov chaw - zoo heev, koj tau pab nws nrog tus so. Zaum ob - daim ntawv ceeb toom dab tsi tsis tau raug muab tshem tawm. Hloov kho kom zoo thiab khov kho.
Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb thaum pib teeb tsa qhov chaw kom raug, kom faib chaw rau qhov chaw tso khoom yooj yim. Yog tias koj tau muab lawv txhua tus pov rau hauv pob tawb thiab qhov no suav hais tias yog kev ntxuav, ces tus menyuam yuav tsis kawm paub ntxuav. Muab nws txee.
Tus menyuam tsis pom kev, ntxiv rau qhov uas tau hais dhau los, nws tau zoo rau hauv cov ntsiab lus: "Saib seb peb chav nyob zoo nkauj npaum li cas tam sim no" lossis "Saib, txhua yam khoom ua si nws muaj nws lub tsev, nws nyob hauv. Thaum cov khoom ua si nqis ntawm hauv av, nws quaj "," Huag, menyuam roj hmab tsis zoo, nws pw hauv pem teb, cia nws mus nqa nws thiab muab tso rau saum txee, nws yuav zoo nyob ntawd."
Kev paub txog vector txheej ntawm koj tus menyuam, koj twb nkag siab yuav ua li cas nrog nws, yam ntsiab lus los hais rau nws, thiab lwm yam. Qhia koj lub tswv yim raws li kev paub tseeb, tom qab ntawd kev sib txuas lus nrog tus me nyuam yuav muaj txiaj ntsig zoo thiab muaj kev txhim kho rau nws thiab, tsis tshua ntseeg, zoo rau koj ob leeg.
